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You can't go home again

Cariboo outside of JasperAfter a long week in Calgary, Pam and I returned to Vancouver via the Yellowhead Highway through Jasper and then south on the Number 5 from Valemont. It was a lovely Mount Michenerdrive, although the route is considerably slower than the southern route, it is so worthwhile! We saw lots of wildlife including a couple of bears, cariboo, several deer, and lots of mountain goats. We appreciated the slower speeds to savour the views.

During our visit to Calgary, an old friend and I arranged for a group of old rocker friends to get together – thirty years later. Always funny to see who got the baldest and fattest (I think I won both awards!) I was deeply saddened by some of the tragic stories, but also greatly heartened by others.

Everyone has their tragedies, of course, and it was tough to talk about some of the mistakes we’ve made. And certainly the old pecking order came out. Some of the things said were so offensive, you wonder if people are just naturally that rude in Alberta, or were my “old friends” just….?

Someone's old dreamOne guy tried to tell me he could get in his car, go down to the library, ask the librarian to look something up for him, she would print it off, and he’d have that done faster than using his “so-called modern internet connection.” After picking myself up off the floor, I suggested to him that she was probably looking up his request on the internet, he shook the pile of papers in my face. I knew there were Luddites around, just amazed to see one of my old friends as one!

Yellowhead LakeComing from a city that has been awash in color and flowers and greenery for months, then driving through picturesque mountains, with wonderful wild flowers in bloom, it’s shocking to come to a dull drab city like Calgary, with it’s unending, sandy colored flat lands, pockmarked with pot hole filled streets, covered in loose, dusty gravel, with huge pickup trucks driven by aggressive rednecks careening down narrow streets, covered in snow. Yeah that’s right, snow in May – choosing to live in Calgary is a bit like choosing a toothache. Who chooses a toothache?

So many boxes...They love to talk about their strong economy, as if pulling oil out of the ground is an economy. When Alberta has more unemployed than Quebec it’s not hard to see why people are leaving in droves. We got sick of passing Albertans with their U-Hauls full of stuff heading to BC. You certainly don’t stay in Calgary because it’s pretty!

They sneer at West Coast liberals, proud to be unabashedly Conservative – while smoking their pot and needing details on how soon they’d get pot stores like Vancouver has had for years. Their sneers at Justin Trudeau were based merely on his parenthood. And of course they  assumed I voted Liberal. (I did not.)

Pam and BaileyIronically, it is Trudeau who will actually make a very real difference in most of their lives. The removal of criminal prosecutions for marijuana is so long overdue, it doesn’t even need stating. Some of them suffer from pot convictions. Harper’s rants on marijuana – sigh – typical Alberta redneck bullshit. No basis in fact, which of course helps in Alberta, where most problems are “solved” with out facts.

And these were guys who listened to the Ramones, and still call themselves rockers… sigh. Old people

Wainwright: Then and Now

The famous bison statueI’ve been wanting to take a trip to Wainwright Alberta for a number of years. Our family lived there from 1964 to 1967. It is a military training base, one of the largest in the world. It’s east, and slightly south of Edmonton. It haunts my psyche, lives in my dreams, and populates my nightmares.

Dedication dayWainwright is the first place I became conscious of “me” – I was born in Barrie, Ontario, but Wainwright is the first place I can remember conversations, things I did, things that were done to me, schoolteachers, friends, even the first death I experienced.

It’s been 49 years since I’ve seen Wainwright, and I was able to drive right to our house! The rocky ledge that I fell down as a child and scrapped all the skin off my left hand is still there, no doubt catching other clumsy kids. I can distinctly remember the pain of having my hand cleaned with iodine, the old school cut cleaner – no polysporin in those days!

Running in out backyardI stood in our back yard and turned and could see the ghosts of us running across the yard. If you wanted to recreate that picture, you could. The view is identical. All the elements are there – the “ole ski hill” in the background, the cable for the clothes line is even still there.

Tank in the parkThe hockey rink still figures prominently just below the ski hill. There seem to be a few more lights, but it’s mostly unchanged. The Canex is still there, so was the infamous round-about where Mom lost a hubcap driving a car full of hockey players to a game in the middle of a snowy day (“Don’t tell your Father!”), the swimming hole, the golf course – everything was there – except the school and the baseball diamond. They’ve been torn down and a cluster of new PMQs cover the area.

Pump jack #3BThe town has the feel of a lot of prairie towns – a big long strip of hotels along the highway, and then the main town runs off down Main Street. You can see the same town structure all over Canada and the US. It’s awfully generic, with each town having something to which they cling for fame. Wainwright was the original shelter for the buffalo. The town essentially sprung up to protect the buffalo, when in 1907, the original Buffalo National Park was created.

Dedicating the bison statueAlthough the park no longer exists, it was eliminated in 1939, Wainwright still takes immense pride in their role in preserving the magnificent plains beast. In 1967, during Canada’s Centennial celebrations, the town decided that a life size sculpture of the great bison should adorn the entrance to Main Street. My Dad took a great series of four pictures as the statue is unveiled.

Welcoome to StettlerI could talk a long time about the using a Navigation System to get to a small town like Wainwright, but I’m not sure my heart could take the strain… suffice to say that there are an awful lot of unpaved roads in Alberta, and our tires have driven over far too many miles of them.

We had lunch in Stettler, a small town where my maternal grandfather was born. There were no plaques to him – most unfortunate!

Mother's Day race in Calgary

Mother's Day 2016Yesterday was the Forzani’s Mother’s Day Race in aid of the Neo-Natal Intensive Care Unit. It’s a cause we’ve supported before and this day was pretty nice. Weather was warmish, with only a slight wind, just enough to help keep you cool as you run.

Showing off my numberThe race is a bit strange in that you actually run down one of Calgary’s main streets – Macleod Trail – but only on the south bound side! The north bound side is still active, with cars whizzing by… There is a barrier, so there is no danger, but it is one of the charms of the race.

The course was nice and flat, with only a couple of minor uphill portions. I did pretty well, but I tell you something is very strange. I use the app MapMyRun to track my runs, and as I crossed the start mat, I clicked it on… After the race, it takes quite a while to get the phone out, turn off the app, and save it. I was really pleased with my time of 32 minutes and 20 seconds. Pam and I had a look and we oohed and aahed.

Maurice getting readyI check my official chip time on the website this morning and I’m at 37 minutes! Ah well… I prefer the MapMyRun stats, but I guess I have to live with being 34th in my category. In my last race I was 630th in my category, so that’s not a bad comeback.

We had lunch with Mom and Rod a little later on. Nice Mother’s Day.

 

A remembrance

As is usual, Bailey and I were taking our early morning walk. I was struck with how beautiful it was, the sun glinting off the moist grass, the sparkling water of the Fraser River in the background. The lovely spring day to come was sure to be amazing.

Dad's golf trophyI thought of my Dad and how much he would have loved to be here, with the golf course just up the hill. I could see him grabbing his carry bag of clubs, and heading up the hill, urging me to get moving, our tee time wouldn’t wait…

I chuckled out loud actually… then I realized it was one year to the day that Dad passed away.

RIP Dad – hope your swing has improved!

 

A celebration of life

Dad in a fedoraMy father, Ernest W. Ormon, affectionately called Ernst by his golfing buddies, and known simply as Ernie by all his friends, was sent off in style on May 01, 2015.

Owen BonnarWe had a bagpiper, Owen Bonnar, looking so sharp in full regalia do Amazing Grace to begin the service, and I tell you, it gave me goose bumps! There was a terrific slide show that our family collaborated on, and it was funny, poignant, and informative.

David gave a very nice eulogy. Then I had a few words to say about my Dad. His granddaughter Amanda read a Biblical passage in his honor. Reverend Kevin spoke some comforting words to the family. Then our bagpiper, piped the family out of the service to the tune of Danny Boy, my Dad’s favorite song.

I’m going to put my speech up here, and I’m hoping David will let me post his eulogy as well.

Dad in a cowboy hatFor my Father,

Good afternoon everyone, thank you all for coming. My father would have been most gratified to see you all, though I think he might have wondered what all the fuss was about.

This gathering is meant to be a celebration of life, not being sad over what we have lost, but celebrating what we have shared, and experienced and gained. Gained – because that is how we give a man a legacy – not just by remembering his name – but by recognizing that a quirk, a manner of speech, an action – was his.

Sometimes when I’m wandering around our house, maybe a little bored, maybe just trying to avoid cutting the grass, or just plain because I feel like it, I’ll sing a little ditty:

well i mighta gone fishing,
but i got to thinking it over,
the road to the river
is a mighty long ways away

Parachute schoolAnd that’s all Dad, on my shoulder, showing me all the wrong notes to hit, the extra words to add. It was his quirk to burst into a song – often this song – at random times. And now, much to wife Pam’s chagrin, it’s my quirk too.

Like David said, he did what a lot of Canadian dads did – slogging sons off to early morning hockey practices and I’m sure he took me to both of the baseball practices I went to… Every time he saw me play sports, he said, “Stay in school boy, stay in school” – it was a mantra we all heard growing up. Get an education.

He told us that if we wanted to live at home after finishing high school you had to either work or go to school – university, college, tech school – he didn’t care – get better, or get to work and contribute.

Maurice and his parentsHe helped me get summer jobs like digging ditches and carrying buckets of hot tar across hangar roofs – and he hoped it would teach me the value of hard work, and the value of money, instead it taught me that I really hated hard work, and in order to avoid it, I needed an education – so in a way – his advice – his mantra – go to school boy – paid off. And it certainly gave him a great sense of pride and satisfaction to see his children and grand children graduate – you saw all the pictures of his smiling, proud face at various graduation ceremonies.

I know David spoke of his passion for golf, and I look around and see a couple of his golf buddies. He was, how shall I put it, um, a bit of a stickler on the golf course.

Dad's golf trophyWe were playing at a city course, Dad and I with my wife Pam’s brother Peter…we come to one of the short par fours, and Dad hits a nice shot down the center, leaving an easy chip into the green. I probably hit mine outta bounds. And we wait for Peter. And we wait a bit more. The fellas in front of us are now on the green.

Finally Dad looks over at Peter and says, “If you hit one of those guys, I’ll run down there and apologize!”

So Peter shrugs his shoulders and drills the ball – it hits just before the green, and rolls between the hole and the person putting. He looks back at Peter, raises his arms in the air? What the?

Maurice and parents August 2014BPeter turns to Dad and raise his arms in the air What the?

And Dad, says to Peter, “better get running.”

Peter says, “But you said…”

And Dad says – “I know what I said, and I didn’t see you HIT anyone! Now get running!”

ut if you really wanted to see his eyes light up, show him a curious or unusual coin you might have. We have a large carboy full of change, and when Dad arrived for a visit, he would joyfully spend hours sorting through it. He’d come over with a beat up penny and say “see this? It’s worth 38 cents!” Or he’d bring a nickel and say “look at this – its worth over a dollar, and someone threw it away in their change! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT!” He loved the history of it, the variations, the beauty, – and he collected all his life. He loved to tell story of an Egyptian Bedouin who came into his office while he was stationed in Egypt and pulled from his robe a handful of ancient coins. You can imagine how excited he must have been!

Now, if you put an Irishman and two whiskeys in the same room, what do you get? Aside from the obvious answer of two empty glasses, along about half way through the second glass you’re likely to get his version of Danny Boy.

Thanksgiving-2009In our family, holiday celebrations meant a second glass of whiskey might get consumed, so Danny Boy was almost like a Christmas hymn for us. We have sung it as badly out of tune as humans can manage, but still, it’s our song… And over the years, where ever I have been, when ever I have heard it, I stop and think of Dad and our family gatherings.

Mom and DadSo when you catch yourself saying or doing something Dad would do – and you recognize and remember that it was him that inspired you – you are honoring him – that is the part of his legacy that WE create – by his giving something to the next generation, however small, we can help him live on. So that one day these grandchildren and these young great grandchildren, might one day say “I heard that my Great Granddad did that,  said that, or loved that.”

Rest in Peace, Dad, rest in Peace.

A tribute to a Father

Our family had a memorial service for my father on May 01, 2015. My brother David, the eldest son, spoke for the family, doing a eulogy to honor my Dad. I’ve asked him if I could reprint his words, and he has allowed me to do so.

Dad’s Tribute
May 1, 2015

Dad's family. January 1955Ernie was the youngest of six sons born to John & Mabel Ormon – he was a third generation Haligonian. Dad’s parents and his five brothers have all predeceased him.

Ernie’s father was a farmer, mainly raising dairy cows supplying cream to Moir’s Chocolate Factory in Halifax. Dad was quite young when the family farm burned down. The family moved to Armdale (a superb of Halifax) and where Dad’s father delivered bread using horse & wagon – a teamster.

Dad left school after completing Grade 9. He was baptized in St James Anglican Church in Armdale on May 4, 1941. This is interesting, as originally the family came from Ireland, and of course, most Irish are Catholic. The closest church to home was Anglican, so that is where Grandma sent Dad for baptism classes. All other family members were Catholic.

After leaving school, Ernie worked for one of his brothers, who was a bricklayer (he carried the bricks up the ladder to the bricklayers). That lasted only a short time. He then went to work for a construction company that was building the Victoria General Hospital in downtown Halifax. Although he became strong and a good carpenter, he soon came to realize that a life of manual labour was not for him.

Dad just after recruitment, 1948So on March 8, 1948, at 17, he enlisted in the Canadian Army, choosing to join the Royal Canadian Army Service Corps (this was the transportation corp for the army). An interesting fact here is that, Dad, one of his brothers and a friend tried to enlist in the Navy. Since the Navy would not have him, he decided to enlist with the army instead. Dad had a very distinguished Army career – he enlisted as a Private and he retired as an officer – Captain.

The Army always transferred their soldiers from base to base. Dad had many postings/transfers within and outside of Canada. I will just speak briefly on a few of them.

Camp Borden (a few miles outside Barrie, Ont) is where he took his basic training. Shortly after basic training, the army enrolled him at Ryerson Technical College in Toronto to learn to type. So after basic training, Dad was a truck driver and an admin clerk. Ernie was an excellent typist – a skill I often admired but could never duplicate. Dad volunteered for jump school at Shilo, Manitoba where he got his “wings” – as a parachutist. Dad was very proud of having his wings. Jumping out of airplanes is not something I would have done…

Mom and Dad in 1950Winnipeg, 1949. One of his duties was to drive the school bus – taking the military high school age kids from the base to a high school in downtown Winnipeg. On the bus was a young lady he became quite enamoured with – one Mary Margaret Fuson. Mom graduated from high school in 1951 (there was picture of them at Mom’s graduation in the video). Mom moved to Ottawa with her parents shortly after graduation as her Father was transferred to Army HQ in Ottawa. Dad and Mom got married on April 21, 1952 at Parkdale United Church in Ottawa. Dad and Mom would have celebrated their 63rd wedding anniversary last week.

Dad looking sharpErnie was posted back to Halifax shortly after they were married where a family was soon started. I was born in 1953 and Rod in 1955. Dad was recommended for officer training. Since he only had a Grade 9 education, and officers had to have a high school education, Ernie attended Royal Military College in Kingston during 1955 where he got his grade 12 equivalency. He was commissioned as a 2nd Lieutenant on December 30, 1955. (His commissioning certificate will be on view in the reception area afterwards). As a 2nd Lt, Dad was posted to Camp Borden as an Instructor at the Service Corp School, the same place he took his basic training in 1948.

Maurice and Karen were born in Barrie – both in 1957 – Maurice in January and Karen in December. As Karen mentioned to me, Dad was the youngest of 6 boys and he had 3 sons of his own, so this daughter was a new experience for him. Karen definitely became her father’s daughter. Dad was very proud of his daughter becoming an engineer.

Edmonton, 1961- he supervised the recruitment centre in downtown Edmonton.

My dad in his UN uniformIn December 1963, Ernie was sent to Egypt for a year (without family) as part of the United Nations Emergency Force – Middle East; which created the buffer between the Egyptians and the Israelis. He served in Port Said (supervising the unloading of supply ships) and Rafah (supervising the unloading/loading of cargo and troop planes).

At Rafah, he learned to play GOLF. Apparently, the runways were hard packed sand – what else would you expect being in the desert? The soldiers carved out a golf course on the runway and played golf while waiting for the supply/troop planes to arrive. Golfing became his passion.

In August 1967, came a transfer to Germany as part of the NATO Land Forces, Europe. The first three years were spent in Soest (near Dusseldorf) and the final year in Lahr, in the Black Forest area.
Living in Europe gave us wonderful travel opportunities.

We always reminisce about this one incident. A family camping trip to Italy was our first trip. While in a small town in Italy, we went into a shop looking for milk. Dad didn’t speak Italian and the shop keeper didn’t speak English. Having grown up on a farm with dairy cows, Dad got down on all fours; moo’d like a cow and then tried to make it look like he was milking the cow. It was so funny – but we got the milk!

Our family posesAs Ernie was nearing his compulsory retirement age, he was allowed to choose his last posting. He chose Calgary as Mom had spent some of her life growing up in Calgary while her father was serving with the Calgary Highlanders during WW2. Mom’s family had moved to Calgary from Scotland in 1909 when her Mom was only 3 years old. We arrived in Calgary in August 1971 and Dad retired on his birthday, August 25, 1977 – only 47 years old.

Dad was presented with 4 medals during his military career: the Canadian Forces Decoration with clasp (CD); the United Nations Emergency Force – Middle East; NATO Service; and, Canadian Peace Keeping medal. Dad always remarked jokingly that the CD medal was given out for 12 years of undetected crime.

On retirement from the military, he briefly worked at the Bank of Nova Scotia but soon moved to the TD Bank. At TD, Dad was a loans officer, assistant manager, mortgages and served as relief manager at different branches on numerous occasions. He retired from the TD on his 60th birthday, August 25, 1990.

Ernie waiting for his shotDad’s passion was golfing, developed while he was in Egypt. I remember him trying to teach me how to play golf when I was about 12 years old (living in Wainwright at the time). The town golf course had sand greens – could Dad ever putt on those sand greens. I always had trouble keeping my head down while swinging the golf club– so he gave me this piece of advice. Looking at the ball in your stance, pretend there is a piece of string connecting your lower lip and your crotch AND there is a large fish hook on each end. It never helped me – I was always a poor golfer.

Dad became a charter member at the Priddis Greens Golf Course and played there for over 13 years. Karen learned to play golf after university and she and Dad spent many happy days golfing at Priddis. The picture on the back of the service folder is a picture of Ernie winning one the TD Banks internal golf tournaments.

Dad, along with Mom, was very active with the Heritage Seniors, which meets here at this church. He led the Walking Club, organized the Golf Club, taught a basic introduction course to computers and assisted in many other ways.

Family portrait, August 2010Dad loved the Army and his golfing. But the thing that mattered most to Dad was his family – his wife, his 4 children and their spouses, his 7 grandchildren and his 2 great grandchildren.

Dad was always there for us. As a child growing up, I remember Dad attending as many sports games and school concerts as possible even with his military commitments. He coached hockey and baseball. He ran behind us as we learned to ride bikes. He taught us how to catch and throw a baseball (he was a great softball player in the army). He played football with us. He helped us with school projects. He taught us to spit-&-polish shoes – hope everyone has shiny shoes on. He was the greatest of Dads.

Dad chases his great grandchildrenLater on, he loved to attend whatever activities his grandchildren and great grandchildren were active in. There were many pictures in the video presentation showing his involvement with his family.

There was never a stranger when Dad was around. He would strike up a conversation with anyone, whether he knew you or not.

Dad was always willing to lend a hand – family or friends, it did not matter. If we asked him to help us move, he was there to help pack our stuff and load/unload the vehicle. If we asked him to remove wall paper, he arrived with his tool belt and just pitched in. Or even when we asked him to help lay hardwood he came to help us with all the necessary tools. And Karen says she wants his tools!

Amanda's weddingJust a couple of days after Dad had passed away, our youngest granddaughter, Addy who is 3 years old, came into Mom & Dad’s house and said to Cathy “Why did great grandpa have to die?” Well Addy, great grandpa’s journey has come to an end and he is onto another form of existence. He had a good life; he was proud of his accomplishments and he was proud of his family. We wish him God Speed on his next journey.

Maurice's Father, Ernest Ormon

Maurice's DadMy father, Ernest Waldo Ormon, passed away last night, April 2 2015, after a short illness. He was 84.

He was a fiercely proud Canadian, serving in the military for thirty years. He entered as a private and worked his way up to captain. A pretty amazing feat for someone who didn’t finish school! When one of his posts took him (and his family) to Europe for four years he got quite annoyed when European people  would ask us if we were American!

Mom and DadAfter the military, he had a short stint in banking, then he retired to the golf links! Dad loved the golf course. Some of my warmest memories are of us trudging around golf courses, usually searching for my ball, at impossibly early hours.

He and my mother were active until just a few years ago when my father began exhibiting signs of dementia, or Alzheimer’s disease.

The cakeAll four of his children were able to return to Calgary from other cities and countries to be with him, before he passed away. Luckily, he didn’t suffer, and went very quietly.

Karen and DadHe is survived by Margaret, his wife of 62 years, his children, David and wife Catherine, Rod and wife Loreen, Maurice and wife Pam, Karen and husband Richard Van Appelen, and his many grandchildren and great grandchildren.

We will all miss him very much.

Rest in Peace Dad.